How to make friends with the dark by Kathleen Glasgow
HarperCollins, 2019. ISBN: 9781460751060.
(Age: Senior secondary) Tiger (Grace) Tolliver's life will forever
be divided into 'before' and 'after' her mum died. Before, she was a
normal 16 year old, only child of a devoted, if overprotective, mum.
They were poor but happy and while Tiger was sometimes bullied at
school, her best friend Cake looked out for her and they, along with
friend Kai formed the band Broken Candle. Then, after Tiger has a
fight with her mum about letting her go to the school dance, her mum
dies from a brain aneurism. Tiger is racked with guilt. 'I would
never . . . have left my mother to die alone. That's the sort of
thing a bad daughter would do' p43. But Tiger's life 'after',
continues in a haze of grief. She is taken into foster care and
experiences first-hand the world of children with no home of their
own. After being moved from carer to carer a family friend finally
alerts the social worker to the identity of Tiger's father, someone
she has never known and who her mother refused to talk about. Once
her blood relatives are tracked down the social security are anxious
to hand over responsibility but all is not smooth sailing. Not only
does Tiger have to learn to deal with her overwhelming grief but she
has to adjust to a world far more challenging than she ever thought
possible. Depression and suicidal thoughts threaten to engulf her as
the full complexity of grief is laid out for the reader; who do you
turn to when your mum dies and other people let you down? There is
no easy answer and ultimately we have to save ourselves, take
control of our lives and learn to live with loss.
This is a book for older students developing a perspective on life,
willing to make the emotional journey with Tiger. The minor
characters tend to be a bit sketchy but they are generally positive
people making the best of their lot in life. There is a notable lack
of comfortable teenage romance but the value and support of family
and friends is central. It would be interesting to compare this with
Stone
Girl by Eleni Hale.
Themes: Grief, Loss, family, friendship, foster care.
Sue Speck